This week, Pastor Chris continued in our series Freedom in Christ. In church culture today, we like to explain away or ignore our pain. However, pain is an inevitable part of life and Jesus wants to shoulder it with us. The invitation of God is to walk with Him through our pain or invite Him into it so He can heal us.

1 Samuel 17:4–7 (ESV)
4 And there came out from the camp of the Philistines a champion named Goliath of Gath, whose height was six cubits and a span. 5 He had a helmet of bronze on his head, and he was armed with a coat of mail, and the weight of the coat was five thousand shekels of bronze. 6 And he had bronze armor on his legs, and a javelin of bronze slung between his shoulders. 7 The shaft of his spear was like a weaver’s beam, and his spear’s head weighed six hundred shekels of iron. And his shield-bearer went before him.

1 Samuel 17:34–36 (ESV)
34 But David said to Saul, “Your servant used to keep sheep for his father. And when there came a lion, or a bear, and took a lamb from the flock, 35 I went after him and struck him and delivered it out of his mouth. And if he arose against me, I caught him by his beard and struck him and killed him. 36 Your servant has struck down both lions and bears, and this uncircumcised Philistine shall be like one of them, for he has defied the armies of the living God.”

Acts 13:22 (ESV)
22 And when he had removed him, he raised up David to be their king, of whom he testified and said, ‘I have found in David the son of Jesse a man after my heart, who will do all my will.’

Acts 13:36 (ESV)
36 For David, after he had served the purpose of God in his own generation, fell asleep and was laid with his fathers and saw corruption,

2 Samuel 11:1–5 (ESV)
1 In the spring of the year, the time when kings go out to battle, David sent Joab, and his servants with him, and all Israel. And they ravaged the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained at Jerusalem. 2 It happened, late one afternoon, when David arose from his couch and was walking on the roof of the king’s house, that he saw from the roof a woman bathing; and the woman was very beautiful. 3 And David sent and inquired about the woman. And one said, “Is not this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?” 4 So David sent messengers and took her, and she came to him, and he lay with her. (Now she had been purifying herself from her uncleanness.) Then she returned to her house. 5 And the woman conceived, and she sent and told David, “I am pregnant.”

1. Going Beyond the Symptoms.
a) Symptom ~ any phenomenon or circumstance that is a sign or indication of something.
b) Etiology ~ the cause or causes of a disease.

2. David had a sexual problem.

Deuteronomy 17:17 (ESV)
17 And he shall not acquire many wives for himself, lest his heart turn away, nor shall he acquire for himself excessive silver and gold.

2 Samuel 5:13 (ESV)
13 And David took more concubines and wives from Jerusalem, after he came from Hebron, and more sons and daughters were born to David.

3. David was a poor father.

Proverbs 13:24 (AMP)
He who withholds the rod [of discipline] hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines and trains him diligently and appropriately [with wisdom and love].

1 Samuel 16:11 (ESV)
11 Then Samuel said to Jesse, “Are all your sons here?” And he said, “There remains yet the youngest, but behold, he is keeping the sheep.” And Samuel said to Jesse, “Send and get him, for we will not sit down till he comes here.”

• Youngest = weak, unimportant, insignificant, worthless one.

1 Samuel 17:28 (The Message)
28 Eliab, his older brother, heard David fraternizing with the men and lost his temper: “What are you doing here! Why aren’t you minding your own business, tending that scrawny flock of sheep? I know what you’re up to. You’ve come down here to see the sights, hoping for a ringside seat at a bloody battle!”

1 Samuel 18:7–9 (NLT)
7 This was their song: “Saul has killed his thousands, and David his ten thousands!” 8 This made Saul very angry. “What’s this?” he said. “They credit David with ten thousands and me with only thousands. Next they’ll be making him their king!” 9 So from that time on Saul kept a jealous eye on David.

• Jealous eye: eye suspiciously or angrily with disapproval and distrust.

4. David medicated his pain.

5. David wasn’t honest with his pain.

Mark 10:46–52 (ESV)
46 And they came to Jericho. And as he was leaving Jericho with his disciples and a great crowd, Bartimaeus, a blind beggar, the son of Timaeus, was sitting by the roadside. 47 And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to cry out and say, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!” 48 And many rebuked him, telling him to be silent. But he cried out all the more, “Son of David, have mercy on me!” 49 And Jesus stopped and said, “Call him.” And they called the blind man, saying to him, “Take heart. Get up; he is calling you.” 50 And throwing off his cloak, he sprang up and came to Jesus. 51 And Jesus said to him, “What do you want me to do for you?” And the blind man said to him, “Rabbi, let me recover my sight.” 52 And Jesus said to him, “Go your way; your faith has made you well.” And immediately he recovered his sight and followed him on the way.

“Jesus is establishing that the first step toward wholeness is always deep desire for it.”
William Barclay

4 Truths About Pain
• Everyone has pain.
• Unless we deal with pain properly when it occurs, is starts to accumulate and snowball.
• Accumulated pain and unresolved problems compromise our mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational health.
• The only way to stop the hurt and totally resolve it is to be honest and turn it toward God.

Discussion Questions:

  1. Is there a symptom of pain (emotional, psychological, spiritual, ect.) in your heart?
  2. It is important to get to the root of our pain symptoms instead of justifying or self-medicating them. Can you identify any roots to pain you are experiencing or have experienced? Are there ways you tend to medicate your pain instead of dealing with it?
  3. What would turning to God in your pain and letting Him into the tender places of your heart look like for you?
  4. Are there generational consequences in your life due to undealt with pain like David and his family experienced? Share with the group and pray for one another.

Application Questions:

  1. Pastor Chris mentioned generational sin as a result of David’s undealt with pain. We don’t want this in our life or family! This week sit the Lord and evaluate if there is undealt with pain that has affected your life or a loved one’s life. Spend time praying through the source of that pain, inviting God to speak to you and heal you. Reach out to a fellow Life Group member or trusted friend to pray and contend for you.